My Healing, My Voice

I had a tough phone call last night.

I felt bullied and intimidated—pressured not to share my recent experiences and emotions as part of my healing journey.

But here’s the truth: I need to rebuild myself after the emotional and mental abuse I endured over the past year. Writing is therapeutic for me. It helps me process, reflect, and heal. As my mother wisely said, “You’re turning your mess into your message.” That’s exactly what I’m doing.

Let me be clear:

My intent is not to hurt, defame, or attack anyone. My intent is to heal, help, and inform—for myself, and for the many others walking a similar path.

Since I’ve started sharing, I’ve been overwhelmed with support. So many of you have reached out—sharing your own stories of pain, survival, and healing. It’s made me realize how powerful it is when we speak up.

If you identify more with the narcissist than with the survivor, and it makes you uncomfortable, maybe that discomfort is telling you something. This could be your chance to seek help and choose a better path.

And if you don’t like the content keep scrolling, and “just get over it.”

But for those who do want to speak out, I want you to know this: you are allowed to share your story. You just need to do so responsibly.

How to Share Your Story Without Legal Risk

1. Stick to Verifiable Facts

Only share what you know to be true and can prove if challenged. Include dates, locations, or documentation if possible.

2. Avoid Speculation or Accusatory Language

Use “I felt…” or “My experience was…” instead of stating accusations as fact.

Example: “I felt manipulated” is safer than “He’s a manipulator.”

3. Use Disclaimers and Anonymize When Needed

Add a statement like: “Names and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy.” Don’t name people unless it’s public record or you have consent.

4. Focus on Your Story

Talk about what you felt, saw, and experienced—not broad claims about someone else’s character or actions (unless provable).

Know the Legal Basics

• Truth is a defense to defamation. If it’s true and provable, you’re protected.
• But you must be able to prove it—with evidence, not just feelings or beliefs.
• Opinions are protected. Statements like “I think he’s toxic” are generally safe.
• Private facts can still cause legal issues. Even if true, sharing private, embarrassing info (especially about health or sex) may lead to privacy claims.
• Public figures have a higher bar—they must prove actual malice.

What If You’re Threatened With Legal Action?

If you receive a cease and desist letter, don’t panic. If your statements are true and supported by evidence, talk to an attorney. In many cases, removing or editing a post is enough.

Your truth is valid.

Your healing matters.

Your voice deserves to be heard—responsibly, clearly, and without fear.