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Boundaries Are Not Optional: How I Learned to Stop Explaining My Standards

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No More Excuses. No More Projects. Just Peace, Partnership, and Clarity. A personal perspective on love, limits, and finally learning the difference. Let me start with this: I’m not a therapist, a coach, or a relationship guru. I’m just a person who’s made more than a few questionable romantic decisions—and finally decided to stop handing […]

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When a Human Has No Humanity: What Do You Call That?

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By Love BB LivingTrigger warning: Emotional abuse, coercive control, psychological manipulation What Makes a Monster? Lately, I’ve been circling back to a few big questions:What makes a monster?How can someone be with one—and not even know it?And what’s the true definition of a monster anyway? Wouldn’t it be fair to say that a human without humanity is one? Okay,

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Since Narcissists Love a Show… Here’s the Finale They Deserve

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They say narcissists don’t know what they’re doing. That they’re emotionally stunted adults just doing their best. That they can’t feel, can’t love, can’t help it. Cute. But that’s bullshit. The Pattern Wasn’t Chaos. It Was Calculated. Their partners, friends, and families often believe them—until they start falling away, one by one. And they will.

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A happy couple in their 40s holding hands at a seaside restaurant at sunset, smiling and connecting over wine—representing emotionally mature dating.

Only the Emotionally Literate Need Apply: Dating in Your 40s Without the BS

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If your 20s were for wild nights and questionable choices, and your 30s were about “figuring it out,” then welcome to your 40s—the era of I know what I want, I know what I won’t tolerate, and I’m not entertaining anything that disrupts my peace. This isn’t about lowering standards—it’s about finally raising your vibration,

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Trust Your Gut, Google Their Ass: How to Vet Who You’re Dating Without the Drama

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Let’s get one thing straight: we are not living in the age of blind trust anymore. We have WiFi, search engines, open public records, and the divine power of a well-trained gut instinct. If something feels off, it probably is—and no, you’re not “paranoid,” you’re paying attention. Now, let’s be real: you don’t need to

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Rom-Com Rejects & Red Flag Survivors: Midlife Dating Decoded

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A no-BS guide to dating apps, profiles, and keeping your sanity (and standards) intact If you’re dating in your 40s—first of all, you are very brave. And I mean that. Yes, it really is that scary. Think less Sleepless in Seattle, and more Hunger Games: Midlife Edition. We’re talking high-level emotional intelligence, red flag radar

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Becoming Her: The Return to My Own Power.

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A journey of healing, rising, and stepping fully into the woman I’ve become. I gave up so many parts of myself this past year in the name of peace. I made sacrifices for a fictional future—and spoiler alert: it was never peaceful or real (turns out delusion isn’t a shared vision board). But I didn’t

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Dating Again After Getting Burned: A Fun Guide to Spotting Flashy Fakes and Financial Finessers

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So… you’re back out there. Back on the apps, back to getting dressed up just to be ghosted by someone with a beard fade and a “startup.” (Allegedly.) You’ve dated some amazing people—and also been love-bombed, manipulated, and finessed by folks with champagne taste and tap water budgets. Some were just messy. Others? Highly skilled

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When a Narcissist Can’t Control You Anymore—Cue the Meltdown

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There comes a moment—maybe not a grand “Aha” moment but a quiet uprising—when everything inside you whispers (or roars), “Enough.” It usually doesn’t happen all at once. It unfolds in layers: a boundary here, a realization there, a tiny rebellion in the form of standing up for yourself and not cowering away.  And eventually, you

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Understanding Trauma, Triggers, and Growth: A Look at Where I Am Today

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As I’ve progressed through this healing journey, I’ve been introduced to a range of terms—trauma bond, trauma, stressors, and triggers. Initially, it was overwhelming to differentiate between them, let alone identify which ones applied to me. What did all of this mean? How could I prevent these patterns from continuing? Before my toxic relationship even

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From Discard to Discovery: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

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When a narcissist discards you, it can feel like the floor has been ripped out from beneath your life. One moment, you’re in what seems like a passionate connection—and the next, they’re gone. No explanation. No closure. Just silence. Then comes the aftermath: a flood of unpredictable messages at all hours. Some are full of

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Digital Deceit: How Narcissists Weaponize Transparency in Relationships

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In healthy relationships, transparency is often praised as a cornerstone of trust. But what happens when “transparency” is used not to build connection, but to control, monitor, and manipulate? Many people find themselves in relationships where a partner demands access to their digital devices, monitors conversations, or insists on knowing every password. Though this might

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What 11 Months with a Narcissist Looked Like (For Me): From Love Bombing to Discard

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Looking back, the entire timeline followed a pattern I didn’t recognize until it was too late. If you’re wondering whether you’re in a similar situation, here’s what a narcissistic relationship felt like to me over the span of 11 months. Month 1: Love Bombing It started like a dream. He was charming, attentive, affectionate. He

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A Journey of Healing: My Experience and Recovery from a Relationship That Changed Me

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This series is part of my healing. It’s a deeply personal reflection on a relationship I was in with someone who, from my perspective and through the support of therapy, I’ve come to believe may have shown narcissistic traits or patterns. I’m not a psychologist, and I’m not here to diagnose anyone. I’m simply sharing

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